Even though they are still sharing a home, a lady whose best friend persuaded her to have an affair is now divorcing him.
Alicia*, who has only been dating her boyfriend for three months, is divorcing Gary* in favor of him.
She claims that their relationship was “totally good” prior to the affair.
They were considered childhood sweethearts by many because they had grown up together in the same town and had met in school.
But when Alicia made the decision to sign up for the website Illicit Encounters and message men, her entire world was turned upside down.
She told Daily Star: “We got through life like any other married couple and we had two amazing children together.
“We have a nice house and have family around us but we were tight on money so hadn’t been away or spent any quality time together for a really long time.
“I just don’t look at my husband anymore and think I want to rip his clothes off. I always used to feel that way and it made me sad I’d lost that.”
When Alicia confided in her friends about her marital woes, they advised her to have an affair in order to save the marriage.
Several of them acknowledged having affairs on their own with the help of the website Illicit Encounters.
Even Alicia’s closest friend acknowledged that it gave her a release and taught her to value her spouse more.
At first, Alicia didn’t believe that having an affair would make things better and she didn’t even want to go through with it.
“She kept saying to me it’s just a harmless fling! It’s just a fling! No one needs to know. It didn’t help that another of our friends did the same thing and wouldn’t stop talking about it either,” she explained.
“They both just said how exciting it was and gave them a new lust for life. Then they started calling me boring for not considering it.
“Next thing you know my best friend grabbed my phone and set up an account for me without me even saying yes to it, and that was the start of it.
“I didn’t set out wanting to cheat on my husband, it just happened by accident. The same day I’d already got matches and I didn’t know what to do so I got my friend to reply to them.”
She added: “I’m so out of practice the whole thing scared me and I felt so naughty and guilty.”
When Alicia started talking to her now-boyfriend Antonio*, she said he made her feel at ease.
He and her had been married for about the same amount of time, which made it easier for them to get along right away.
They met for dinner after chatting for a bit, and that is when everything started to change.
“It wasn’t love at first sight but something just changed in me that night I don’t know I just felt different maybe it was the excitement but a part of me just felt like it was something more,” she explained.
“These last three months have shown me what I’ve been missing all these years and so much about our relationship I thought was normal because I was young – it wasn’t.
“I feel like my eyes have been opened and I couldn’t continue with all the lies and secrecy. I just had to tell them all and leave, even if that meant them hating me for a while.
“It was the worst day of my life telling them and I keep thinking about it over and over in my head and thinking of how I could have dealt with it differently, overanalyzing every last word and reaction.
“I don’t think I’m ever going to be able to get the look of shock on their faces out of my mind.”
Alicia is worried about whether she’s made the right decision but she can’t turn back now as she has concerns her friends and family will never forgive her.
She, her husband and children are all still living in the same house while they work things out. Sadly, they have barely spoken to her in over a week since she told them.
“I hope they will grow up to understand why I followed my heart. It’s been absolute hell on earth, all living under the same roof after dropping such a bombshell,” she said.
“I feel like I can’t even get something out of the fridge without their disappointed eyes on me. But I have to remember why I am doing this.”